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For Women and the MEN that love them !
Every day life can be stressful. Add to that
Isolation, financial problems, Family problems and the worse on a Family Divorce or the
Death of a loved one. Both stay at home Mum's and working Mum's have some degree of
stress. See my Page on "Liberated By Submitting"
Some women may even lose their children through Divorce or Jail time, etc. (Once a Mom comes out of prison she may not have a easy time getting her children back). More Dads are gaining custody because they may have the higher income to hire a lawyer during a divorce and custody battle. They say that the national poverty is the single Mom trying to raise children alone. She may resort to all kinds of awful things to raise her children. Prostitution or breaking the law, drug and alcohol abuse is common and some women find their self in Jail or Prison. Some women find themselves having to go into the hospital for illness, whether physical or Mental (drug addiction, etc.) Some women leave the family home because they can no longer cope with everyday life, they may lose touch with reality and no one seems to notice until its too late. Some women leave the home by using drugs or alcohol, even though they do not physically leave the home they are not there mentally.
Note: I must say that my ex-husband is not a dead beat Daddy. He pays for his children and cares for them and has taken care of them when I could not financially cope.
Grandmother's off her Rocker ! Remember the image of the grandmother who sits in her rocker waiting for her children to arrive, or grandmothers that live with or near their grown children. In other countries, grandparents play a very important role in raising the grandchildren. It takes away some of the added stress to the MUM. Today we see grandmothers too busy to help their daughter or daughter-in-law. Some grandmothers would love to take an active role in their grandchildren but society had made it hard for them to be a stay-at-home grandmother. Financially, some grandmothers need to work. And sadly with the 90s and problems associated with it there are a lot of grandmothers who have to raise their grandchildren, when one of her own children spazes out. This leaves her little time for her other grandchildren or helping her other children. Good old 90s !
Being wife number 2 and the blended family Last but not least is the stress of the second wife. She is the mum that may marry into a family where the mum lost it and maybe even had to leave. She comes in, marries the husband and tries to pick up the pieces. She has to deal with wife #1 calling and the new husbands attitude against wife #1 etc. and the children remembering how wonderful Mummy #1 was, etc. not to mention weekend visits. Darn it! She is there doing the work and Mommy #1 is still the hero. It's hard to be a step-Mum. If she has children of her own, it's even harder. You have a home full of wounded children with different fathers and different Mum's to cope with. You have children bouncing all over the place. A weekend here, a weekend there. Rules here, different rules there and If you have a couple who can not communicate on Rules - it's awful on the poor children. There's a great Book out there called "How to be in a Step family without getting stepped on." by Kevin Leman.
Fun Links Just click on the below links to go to the site Yahoo Jokes
(best place to find funnies of all kinds)
Prayer and Meditation are magical tools to use when you are stressed out. Start every day by getting up a bit earlier (while the family is asleep) light a candle and spend some time meditating and in prayer. Read an inspirational book on meditations for the day. (Your Bible is a great book for inspiration). Keep your mind set on the positive.
Say affirmations all day long to yourself ! I promise that it works! Remember "one day at a time". I know it is a cliché but it really is a wonderful way to look at life. You can't handle all your problems at once. Only look at what you can do today. Don't be a fortune-teller, always looking into your future. And predicting what awful outcome may come to pass. My BeRkS said that I'm in big trouble if I do this! It makes me so sad to think about what may happen to my children. But I will listen. Remember it has been proven that 99% of what we worry about never comes to pass. Ever! That means that only 1% of what we worry about comes to pass ! 1% !
Remember the Movie Pollyanna ! (Don't laugh !) Pollyanna felt good about life despite all her obstacles. She looked at the sun instead of doom and gloom. Remember she played the glad game. She thought in every circumstance, "What can I be glad about in this!" From now on, find one good thing to be glad about in every circumstance that you may find yourself in. Ask your kids "what can we be glad about at this moment?" They will grow up looking for the Joy in all their life's circumstances ! Go out to Blockbuster and Rent Pollyanna. Read Books By: Barbara Johnson had three sons and lost all three of them! One was killed in the Army,
the other one was killed in a auto accident, and the other one chose to stop talking to
his parents for years and years!
Make a Cyber Friend Pen pal Join a list or News Group Come on IRC and Chat to
me Links to Lists or
Newsgroups
Find a group that helps hurting Mums (Mum’s in prison or in a women's shelter that helps women who are in hiding and abused, these shelters are in need of both womens clothes and children's clothes and Jackets). It's hard to stay depressed when you are helping others. Say a Prayer for Women that may be so lost (literally or mentally) that they find their way home or find someone who will Love them and help them. There are a lot of women and children that are homeless and hungry and don't know what to do. If you can go and find them and help them!
Virtual Florist to send free
virtual flowers very fun
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Write your thoughts in a
journal. Write out Affirmations (positive thoughts of things you want to happen, that may
not have happened yet). Starting your day out in a positive, relaxed way really makes a
difference. 
Loneliness and isolation are a
real problem for some women. Why not join a church. (Some have great womens groups). There
are churches for everyone and every kind of lifestyle, even liberal churches if you are
afraid of going over the top with Religion. You don't have to be a bible basher to enjoy a
church. 
Reach out and take
chances on friendships! Call someone new and invite him or her for tea. If they say no,
who cares, ask another...You may need to ask 25 women before one says...Sure I would love
to come over. 
Help other stressed out
hurting Mums. Give them a phone call or a card of support. Ask them to trade baby-sitting
or house work.